Healing the Pain of Being Selfless With Boundaries
Boundaries serve to protect you in all areas of life, especially in relationships and work.
In a relationship, boundaries are so important to protect not only yourself but your partner. Because once boundaries are crossed both parties are disrespecting themselves. Any disagreement can only get worse if boundaries are crossed.
In this society we praise being selfless which fosters the idea that we should not have boundaries. Boundaries are your vault to protect what is most essential to you and who you are. Without them, everything that is important to you is given up as a free for all. And eventually you will feel empty.
We need to take care of ourselves. We need to be the caretaker for ourselves and not be the caretaker for others. Your only responsibility is yourself. You are not responsible for others. You can have the desire to help others, but you’re not responsible for other people’s problems. That is what I feel is the root of the pain of selflessness. Selflessness means that all that is important to you no longer exists.