Denying the Pain of Abandonment
Being abandoned is an illusory pain. It is illusory because the pain is so severe that in order to protect our sense of worthiness we take it out our consciousness and embed deep into our subconscious. We still feel the pain of abandonment but we do not know what this feeling is and may project it onto other people who are not responsible for it.
The caller here, Gina, feels like she cannot trust her partner because in her childhood she witnessed her single father’s problem of dating multiple women at the same time. Though her father has never abandoned her, it is the pain of the abandonment that she feels and projects onto him.
We all are guilty of abandoning ourselves in some way. I have personally abandoned myself when I become so fixated on outcomes of work that I lose the sense of joy and purpose of the work I love and most importantly I forget to take care of myself. Please listen to this powerful podcast and find out what is the true source of Gina’s abandonment, while beginning to explore your own source of abandonment as well.